More than friends but not dating
I remember sitting under a starry night sky, surrounded by beautiful trees when a handsome friend of mine started asking me questions about my life.
It was charmingly romantic, except it wasn’t because he had a girlfriend.
I want to step back for a moment and say building intimacy and deepening your connection with someone isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
If you’re dating someone, then doing these things can actually bring you closer together, which is what you want.
More often than not, dating opens women up to a world of confusion that too often ends in hurt. He may also want to have life experiences or work on himself first before he gets into a serious relationship.”The second time I heard a man say he couldn’t be a boyfriend, I was actually relieved.
Your typical meet-cute begins with an ambiguous “hangout,” and as time goes by, it becomes increasingly unclear whether you and your guy are just really close friends or taking things slow. Timing plays more of a role than not being ‘good enough’ for a guy. Burned by my last experience, I saw it as a warning and promptly cut off the flirtation with no wounded pride. If you find yourself or a friend in this confusing Neverland of a dating situation, learn from my mistakes.
What we hope for are mutual declarations and a bashful relationship status change, but what we too often receive is a noncommittal disclaimer that obvious attraction and flirtation do not always a future boyfriend make. If a man tells you he’s not ready to be boyfriend material, realize that he’s In a world of flakiness and straight-up ghosting, frank honesty is commendable.
At some point or another, we have to get some clarification as to what exactly is going on here or risk getting stuck in the ambiguous friend zone.? After all, he’s giving you the power to ascertain the situation more clearly by setting expectations instead of leading you on a confusing wild-goose chase.
If you learn to be aware of these, you will save yourself and the people in your life a world of hurt and confusion.
You still have to build trust and go through each stage of dating so that your relationship has a good foundation. This is definitely true with physical boundaries, but it’s also true with emotional ones.
When you start to share things about your life and your feelings that you don’t share with a lot of people, you are giving someone access to a deep place in your heart.
They may be a completely trustworthy person, but until they’re committed to you, there are certain parts of you that they haven’t earned access to.
So ladies, if you find yourself sitting under a starry night sky with a handsome man who has a girlfriend, I don’t care how perfectly thought-out his questions are, keep it surface level!